Thailand Culture and Etiquette

Of all the Indochinese nations, Thailand is the only one never to have been colonised, something of which they are very proud. Over 90% of Thais are Buddhist followers and this has shaped much of their culture. As part of this, a strong sense of status exists in Thai society. It is therefore expected that a polite person will show the correct level of respect to anyone of higher status and also to the elderly.

The traditional Thai greeting is the 'wai'. Both hands are brought together in a praying position and lightly tapped on the chest while bowing.  To show maximum respect, the hands should be raised to nose level. Foreigners are not expected to initiate the 'wai' but should return it. One should never offer a 'wai' to children or people such as shop assistants, nor should their 'wai' be returned. A brief nod of the head in recognition is enough.

The top status in Thailand is afforded to the King and the Royal Family. Thai people revere King Bhumibol and show him utmost respect. At the same time he is protected by law and it is a serious offence to insult him or show any lack of respect. Foreigners have been imprisoned in Thailand for insulting the king.

If invited to a Thai home, it is polite but not essential to take a small gift such as chocolate, fruit or flowers. These should be wrapped in coloured paper, but not green, black or blue as these are used at funerals and when in mourning. Do not give marigolds or carnations. These are for funerals. It is normal to remove one's shoes when visiting homes and when entering the home step over the threshold rather than on it. Traditional Thai custom has it that the door god lives on the threshold.

Thai people usually eat using a fork and spoon. Chopsticks are only used for eating noodles. The spoon should behold in the right hand and the fork in the left. The fork is used to push the food onto the spoon which is then raised to the mouth. Especially in the north, sticky rice is a popular food. This is usually eaten with the fingers. Always of the right hand! It is polite to leave a little food on the plate to show that you are full. If you eat everything or take the last from a serving bowl, the host will lose face for not having provided enough. However, it is not acceptable to leave any rice. This is considered wasteful.

Thailand remains a conservative society and this is revealed in its attitude to dress. Smart, clean clothing is essential. Only low status people would wear anything else and many Thais are offended by the casual clothes often worn by young western travellers. Shorts and sleeveless shirts are not acceptable to most Thais unless on the beach. Revealing clothes are also taboo.

In temples, you will not be admitted unless you are properly dressed. This means no shorts or t-shirts. For women slacks, a long skirt, a long sleeved blouse with a buttoned neck, and a headscarf are recommended. Women should never touch a monk. There are also restricted areas inside temples where women are not permitted.

Finally, should you accidentally offend against Thai etiquette, remember that a quick 'wai' of apology will be sufficient for your offence to be forgotten.